Anonymous asked: Has any trans* man ever decided to stop taking T within the first year because they realized that, for whatever reason, they didn't want to transition anymore? Do you think they were treated negatively because they changed their mind?
I don’t know anyone personally, but perhaps T.R.A.N.S. followers can shed some light on this particular subject?
Anonymous asked: I am a 20 year old FTM i am not out to my family or anyone at all. I have an ex girlfriend who i love and who still loves me. I father her son, but we have just joked about me being his dad even though she doesn't know about me. I use to tell my family as a child i was a boy, but they thought it was phase and always told me otherwise. I want to come out to her and my family, but i just don't know how i would do it or how they would feel about it. How you would approach this?
Hope this helps you!
I must unfortunately bid you all adieu. As you may have noticed recently, I started a blog on Wordpress that is more closely tied to the work I do in person. I have been finding that Tumblr does not serve my blogging needs as it once did, and I spend less and less time using it. I rarely even use my personal account for more than private posts and reblogging the occasional GIF. It’s not fair to represent myself as someone who is available as a resource on Tumblr any longer.
I will answer the questions I received as of 11PM on the east coast of the U.S., and then I will be leaving.
Farewell, goodbye, auf wiedersehen,
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What is Qs About the T?
Qs About the T began as a workshop in 2008, as a means of introducing terminology and subjects related to trans* and gender-variant identities to queer and trans* allies. It has been presented at conferences and colleges as a means of exposing LGBT and queer allies to various issues affecting the trans* community. It has been well received at conferences such as the Long Island GLBT Services Network Conference, Civil Liberties and Public Policy conference, and has reached audiences from New Jersey to Massachusetts.
In an effort to reach a wider audience, I have decided to expand upon the initial workshop and create an internet-based space for discussing the social implications, challenges, and experiences of being transgender or gender-variant in the United States. As it develops, this blog will grow to include resources for allies, as well as a space for answering questions many people have concerning the lives and experiences of trans*-identified individuals. Though I cannot speak for the community as a whole, I am willing to provide answers based on my personal experiences and the knowledge I have accumulated over the years as a community educator.
I am by no means an expert. I simply have a substantial interest in deconstructing stereotypes, unveiling truths, and shedding light on the often misrepresented trans* community. I have dedicated a significant amount of time to issues affecting queerness and gender variance, both academically and socially. Having served as a youth leader, student org leader, and activist in myriad capacities, providing accurate and reliable information is something I value greatly. And as our world dives deeper into the age of the Internet, it’s important for me, for many reasons, to continue working toward normalizing and demystifying the transgender and gender variant community.
For more information on the work I have done in the past, or for information on how I can help you educate others, you may email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Anonymous asked: I'm a Female-to-Male pre-op transsexual from Florida and no matter how much I research, I can't find information I need. I've got a friend going through hormone replacement therapy in GA right now who says the state no longer requires psychiatric testing beforehand. I'm desperate to know if FL is the same. I'm living in London until the Summer, so I can't go ask around myself. I've been this way since I was 12. I'm 26 now. It hurts to keep being forced to wait. I have to know.
You’re talking about the standards of care, which no longer require individuals to seek counseling and therapy before pursuing medical transition. But that doesn’t mean doctors aren’t continuing to ask their patients to do it. Really it can be hit or miss, it all depends on the doctor.
If you visit LGBTcenters.org, you can search for an LGBT community center or wellness center that should be able to offer safe/reliable resources available in your area. It looks like there are 10 organizations spread out across Florida, so you should be able to find a group that can help you out.
Best of luck, and enjoy the rest of your time in London!
Anonymous asked: Can you please explain to me what 'queer' means? I've seen it and just haven't quite figured it out. Thank you!
Queer can be many things. Queer can be a gender identity, or it can be a sexual orientation. The word itself means strange, odd, or different. People use queer as an alternative to more definitive labels, or as a way of describing an identity that doesn’t fit neatly into other groups.